"objects in mirror are closer than they appear" - that's an understatement. As the kids are starting school, they all can't wait for the next break, the end of their senior year, until they get their license, until they are on their own... We have all been there. Tomorrow looks so promising- it HAS to be better than today.

As parents, we tend to do the same thing... we can't wait for them to walk, stop teething, start school, you name it. Those milestones seem to allow us something to look forward to every day.

So maybe this is healthy, who really knows. It may drive us to keep on keeping on everyday, or drive us to miss the most beautiful times of our lives in the todays that we are missing. We may plan so hard on those "what will bes" that we take for granted those days that we are living in.

I have listened to my husband as he is with families of the dying, or someone who is close to their last breath. These people never wish they had more time to work, or do chores, or extend their education. In those last moments- they always want more time to enjoy their family and friends, travel, and simply enjoy the days they were given.

“We're so busy watching out for what's just ahead of us that we don't take time to enjoy where we are.”

Today is full of beauty. Even in the hardest days- there are so many things that should give us joy. Tomorrow may or may not come- no one knows-

What a better world it would be today for us all if we deleted words like "Someday..." and "One Day...;" All I know is that if it's worth seeing, listening to or doing, I want to see, listen to or do it now...."Time is a valuable thing; watch it fly by as the pendulum swings."


these are a few of my favorite things...

well- it's my list... all over the place- but that's me!

no particular order- a few of my favorite things.....

any cherry candy- especially ring pops

the smell of the air after a nice rain

birds chirping early in the morning

an ice cold coke

a powerful thunderstorm
the word Serendipity

big fluffy clouds

orange Popsicles- comfort treat


Hilton Head Island

laughing until I cry

all music- music makes anything better- (it moves me)

my husband's crooked grin when he is up to something

my daughter's smile

my son's unexpected text messages

roller coasters

the sound of crashing waves

the smell of a baby's head after a bath

bubble wrap


the smell of Christmas- (pine in Nov-Dec)

a tough one...

"I beg your pardon... I never promised you a rose garden..."- I wonder if God sings this? He should- I know I would if I were him and humans felt they deserved a pity party when the rough days surface...

In a nutshell... Step one to the return to normal every day life... coming off the steroids, which anyone who has ever been on high doses knows what this does to your emotions... yuk! Been on a steady dose since 6/3 and the weaning off- oh, so fun. You never know if I want to cry on your shoulder or punch you in the face! It's nothing personal- really! I know when I am acting unbearable- luckily my close friends and my family know the deal- and seem to handle me oh so appropriately... to that ever so special person that just lets me ramble on and on... like today when I needed to- you are always there right on time. Thank you!

Even on days like these, when I feel down and really unsure of what tomorrow will hold, I find myself in awe of other's strength. Just today at the store, I watched a man with arm braces and struggling to walk proudly work his way through the store, shopping for himself even when it is obviously difficult, and as others approached to ask if he needed help, I found myself thinking, "no! Don't! he WANTS to do this on his own!" I can tell. I know when someone sick or hurting wants help and when they want to do it just BECAUSE THEY CAN. He was the latter of these 2. I knew it. Others didn't. Instead I gave him a sincere smile and asked about the weather, as I would anyone else who was in line with me. His returned smile told me all he didn't say- "thanks for treating me like everyone else."

He inspired me tonight. He displayed strength. LIVE INSPIRED. Yes- it is truly in line with the legacy I have been working on for a month or so. Just when I was letting my energies go toward the negative, God through someone my way to get my attention. It worked. Back o track, though I know it isn't the easy path...

Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.

"you can turn off the sun, but I'm still gonna shine..."


my... how priorities change...

Boy, when life throws you a curve ball that is life changing, it is amazing how priorities change.

We have never been wealthy or never NOT had to worry about finances... seemed to always be in the same place no matter what our income was... we always lived to our means. WE have no extravagant toys, pastimes, or habits and although we have not saved as we should have- we have always been comfortable.

I have held executive management positions in multiple industries and have made really good money, always proud of what I did and the ability to be a provider for the family. My husband does well for a paramedic/firefighter due to tenure and an amazing work ethic that spins him into always having a second career, and for many years even a second full time job.

There have always been sacrifices on both our parts- Him by working 48 hr shifts straight with 24 hrs off to recoup, me... well by settling on a career path that has never fulfilled me or made me feel like I make a difference in the big picture of life. I envy his career every day. He makes a difference. A REAL difference!

a bit of history... 2008 reality... a nice home in a nice neighborhood- (honestly more than we need,) drive average cars- eat out far too much as we get caught up in the rat race called life, and have all we need, even though we do not spend on those things we WANT simply because there is not enough money to go around.

take 2- the news... major health issue has worsened, and info that an expiration date to come... wow- a punch in the gut. 4 months out of work in 2009 so far. Time to re-evaluate.

We looked back to the happiest memories in our lives and it is funny... one was when we lived in a duplex in Macon GA, (1000 sq feet and up to a family of 4) made 40,000.00 COMBINED annually, Skye was not here yet, and Jordan was 3. We spent Saturdays on the back patio in a hard $10.00 baby pool- YES, all 3 of us... me, Dwayne AND Jordan. Good times. No. GREAT times.

This brought a keen realization that happy is as happy does- NOT what happy owns, where happy lives, or what happy does for a living... time to simplify.

Ch-ch-ch-changes. Time to establish better priorities, and find a way to enjoy and add beauty to simply being human.

Our kids are amazing! Non-materialistic, MORE than understanding, and unbelievably resilient. They have always been fearless when it comes to change. This is part of what make us who we are. In this time- we could not ask for better qualities as we started discussing the present situation with them.

We all agreed... We needed to find the new normal.

Live simple- live inspired- and live every day to its fullest. Simple as that. okay... mindset is right... now time to take action!

Dwayne and I drove around the county today and tried to decide what kind of home change would be acceptable for our family in this time of change... amazingly- we realized that when that curve ball was thrown our way- we would have sold everything we owned and move into a shoebox if we could all be healthy and happy.

We can do this! Together we are an amazing force of strength, resilience and bravery.
We don't have all the answers, but I do know one thing. It's a start.

Time to put all pride aside- none of that matters anymore. All that matters is to find our personal freedom and start living the life we imagine. Time to go out on a limb- who knows... if it breaks- we just may realize that we could fly all along. It is time to design a life that we can love living every day together as long as God grants us the time.

and you know what? We ALL have an expiration date- sometimes we know it is coming- sometimes there is no warning. Who knows which is better...

If today was your last day... would you do what you did today? If you were given a year to live- what changes would you make? Would your priorities be the same as they are right now?

I know we still have some work to do!

all in all- a quote said it best..."life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." May I have this dance?

"When you come close to selling out... Reconsider. Give the heavens above More than just a passing glance... And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance I hope you dance."


leave your mark- everywhere you go

every day we have the opportunity to impact others lives in either a positive or negative way. It may be through a jesture, quick temper, judgement, slip of the tongue, or a smile. No one is perfect- we all react in ways we wish we didn't from time to time.

As I vow to slow down my reactions and think before I act or speak- I hope to not negatively impact others going forward in any way.

Why is it we are so kind to strangers, but the ones we love the most we are most impatient with? I read an email forward recently that said when a stranger gets in our way, we say, "excuse me."... but if our kid gets under our feet- the response is usually not as kind. Hmmm... something to think about indeed.

In every day we can all leave our footprint. Every interaction or reaction. Why not make it a positive one...

What I hope will be my footprint... Smiling through life's challenges... Even when it is hard.

What could possibly be better to be known for than a smile.
THERE'S a success.

"It's the time, you must keep on trying. Smile... what's the use of crying... you'll find that life is still worthwhile- if you just SMILE."

reflections of the way life used to be...

okay- by the title, you can probably tell that music not only inspires me... it drives me. No matter what is going on in life, there is always a song lyric to make me see things a different way. So you will probably recognize many things in my blogs from songs you know. (just as my statuses on Facebook.)

Everyone has a story...

Ever ask yourself...how did we get here? When we dream as a child of where we will be when we grow up, how many of us really end up there. VERY FEW. Actually with that said, if we take the time to recognize the beautiful blessings around us, we are probably far better off. It's all about those unanswered prayers. Truly believe they are one of God's greatest blessings...

Nothing that happens is by accident. We are right where we are suppose to be as we create our history day by day.

There are highs and there are lows- no matter who you are, where you live, or what you own... without the lows- the highs mean nothing. Ironically enough, when we face the hard times we seem to appreciate everything good so much more.

Well known as a control freak, I have always liked to plan out every minute of every day and plan ahead... In the last 8 months we have faced the tough reality that we are not promised a "some day" or a "future" or even a "tomorrow." Yes, life truly does happen while we are making plans. It also seems to wake us up when we least expect it or begin taking things for granted. We learned overnight last December that there are many situations that we can not control, change, or quite frankly do anything about at all. A bad prognosis to a chronic health condition is one of them.

I had a choice to make... accept it and face it head on and begin living everyday to the fullest as long as my body would allow it, or curl up and have a pity party. I choice door number 1.

I feel I was given this life because I can handle what is thrown my way. That does not mean it is easy, or everything is fun... by all means it's not. There are many days I put on a fake smile and pretend I feel great just so I don't miss the life that is going on around me. This is my way of coping. It works for me...


"Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered prayers."

the start of it all...

To start it all, I truly feel that life is not planned out for us. We write our life story every day by the choices we make and the chances we take. This blog will be about life- everyday life... what has led to this chapter in my life- today as it is... and where I go from here. Hopefully it can and will be inspiring to at least one person.

I have been accused of being overly optimistic or seeing the glass as half full in a time when all indicators determine it should appear half empty. All I can say is it helps keep me in a better place mentally, so it seems to work. Not to say that there are not hard times. Gosh knows we have seen our fair share... but I truly do believe the 'ol cliche.. "life is 10% what happens and 90% how we respond." The reaction defines the outcome.

Webster defines life in many ways...

1- The physical, mental, and spiritual experiences that constitute existence...
2- The interval of time between birth and death...

with both of these in mind- I have to believe we determine the outcome for the most part. Maybe not how we would choose it, or how we would have it in a perfect world... but we shape our world with every action and every interaction.

So how do you know if your life is successful? It certainly is not about how much money you make, or how beautiful you are, or having 2.5 kids and a picket fence... We all define success in our own way. Here is mine...

A successful, happy life is when the good times outweigh the bad times. We will all have storms to face and mountains to climb... It's all about how we choose to face these obstacles and challenges.

No matter what you are facing... always know that someone else has it worse than you, and there is always another story to make your problems look minimal.

Every life is a good life. Enjoy it every day.